Forever Families Through Adoption

Adoptive Parents

Who Makes an Adoption Plan?

The negative stereotype of a birthparent heartlessly giving up a child couldn’t be further from truth. Neither is it the reality that all birthparents are troubled and irresponsible teens. In fact, most birthparents today are over the age of 18, who recognize that they lack the resources to raise a child.

Many of them are already caring for one or more children, and realize that placing this newborn with another family will give the baby a better chance at the life they’ve dreamed he or she would have. For them, as for most birthparents, the decision to place their child for adoption is an educated and thoughtful one, and it is often a painful, but loving, choice. As one adoption professional explained, “one of the biggest, hardest myths for birthparents is that they don’t care. They do care. They care enough to know that they can’t parent at this time.”

Here are some real words from some real birthparents that say it better than we ever could…

“I can’t give Daniel what he deserves. I know that giving him away at the very beginning of his life will not put him through any long term damage… I know that by giving him the chance to have 2 parents to love & guide and stand by him no matter what problems will come along in the future, I have made the right decision.”

“I want to keep you so badly, but I know I am doing what is best for both of us… I could never give you what they can. I am still in school. I make minimum wage at my job. We wouldn’t be able to make it. I know I am making the best decision. Please try and understand my position. I love you more than life. It is killing me to give you up.”

“I have to be honest and tell you that the 22 nd of this month went by with tears of joy for you three. I still look back and know deep in my heart that if I had the opportunity to do it all over again, I would still do it the same way. I can remember your ad in the paper about puppies and ponies and a college education. I can remember like it was yesterday the look on Michelle’s face when I handed you Mark. A late Christmas present, remember?”

“Sorry that I have not written to you guys (for almost 2 years), but I needed some time to deal with everything… definitely no regrets though. What a blessing the two of you are. J I know Timmy is loved and cared for and having a wonderful life! Do you know how I know that? Because he has the best parents any boy could ask for.”

“I am feeling a peace knowing how much you both want this child – I feel like I am doing the right thing Your letters make me realize how much of a wonderful life this child will have with you – a life I knew I could not give at this time.”

“Beth and John are very special and I can’t think of anyone who deserves this chance to provide for and love their ‘New Baby Boy’ more than they do… the way they looked at Michael when they first saw him was with nothing but absolute and unconditional love. What a feeling of pride it gave me to be able to hand Mom her son. I wouldn’t trade that moment for the world. I am so happy for them, and for the fact that I got to be the one to make their dreams come true… I feel privileged to have been a part of completing their family.”

A New Found Friend

A poem written by Dawn, one of our birthmothers to the Adoptive Mother

Not so long ago, my life was incomplete.
My dreams of success seemed far beyond my reach.
Then out of nowhere, a miracle occurred.
A complete stranger came into my life.
Amongst all my problems peacefulness filled my being…
I knew everything would be alright.
She shared a common bond with me, one only mothers can share.
You see, I am the birthmother of the child for whom she’ll care.
Together we’ve shared laughter, tears, heartache, and joy.
The reason… A precious baby boy.
You mean the world to me,
And in my heart you will always be.
No one has ever touched my heart in this way.
I’ll cherish our newfound friendship forever.
I’ll be with you every day.

Choices and Decisions

A poem written by Keri Ann while incarcerated regarding her adoption plan

Sometimes you gotta make a hard Decision.
Sometimes you just should have Listened.
It is only your children as home you are Missing.
And every night it is them you with you were Kissing.
Sometimes you don't know if the choice you are making is Right.
But you don't take it Light.
And always put up a Fight.
Yes, No of I Might....

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FFTA Board Secretary Sam Karliner to participate in Ironman World Championship Kona 2024

"Twenty-nine years ago, adoption changed my life in ways I could never have imagined. It blessed me with the children and the family I had always hoped for. Joy and Michael played a pivotal role in our adoption journey all those years ago, and their warmth, kindness, and dedication have remained constant throughout the years. As my family grew in love, I stayed connected with them and the incredible world of adoption. Whenever the opportunity arose, I found ways to help promote adoption education, which eventually led me to serve on the board of FFTA. Today, FFTA needs our help more than ever. Supporting FFTA in its mission to educate and create forever families is crucial.

On October 26, 2024, I'll be competing in the Ironman World Championship in Kona, Hawaii, and I'm using this incredible event as an opportunity to raise awareness and funds for FFTA! As I push myself through the 140.6 miles of the Ironman, I'll be carrying with me all the love that adoption has brought to my life. Knowing that I have your support will be my greatest source of encouragement.

Whether large or small, every donation from the heart will make a difference in helping FFTA continue its life changing work. I am deeply grateful for the chance to take on this journey, and even more so for the generosity of people like you who share my passion for supporting adoption.

With heartfelt appreciation, Sam"

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Forever Families Through Adoption, Inc.
62 Bowman Avenue
Rye Brook, NY 10573-2804
Tel: 914-939-1180
Fax: 914-939-1181

All of the children portrayed or mentioned on this website are with their forever families and are NOT available for adoption.

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